Approximately 50% of millennials have used dating apps. However, with the abundance of dating app users, many of these dating profiles are not truthful. As previously discussed, catfishing is a major issue. It’s not uncommon for guys to stretch the truth about their dating profiles or even flatly lie about it. It’s a crappy feeling to spend time chatting over text and to meet them in-person realizing they had lied. Unfortunately, it’s not always the first date when you realize they’ve been lying flat out. This can lead to a tremendous amount of time wasted and an emotional burden on oneself.
Here are 14 ways guys lie on their dating profile.
1. Looking for a Relationship
As a woman, you may be online dating for a number of reasons. Perhaps you just had a breakup and want a bounce back. Or maybe you’re sick of guys that can’t commit and are looking for a relationship. The list goes on and on. So naturally, when you match with that hot guy with the perfect smile you pop the question, What are you looking for? He quickly responds by saying, A serious relationship. Hbu?
He may be honest or it could be a way to manipulate you. This article isn’t to man shame or make you distrustful of men. It’s about being cognizant that that man may be lying in his online dating profile, but in this case, the best way to find out is to go out with him. Get a feel. Does he immediately want to sleep with you and ask you to go back with him? Or does he send you off your way, saying that he’d love to see you again? You’ll get a feel by the end of the date.
2. Fake Online Dating Pictures
Adding fake dating profile photos is cruel, but it’s not atypical for men to do. Why do they add fake photos to their online dating profile? Perhaps they’re either extremely insecure about their appearance and believe that when you two meet, you’ll forget what they look like. But no one forgets. So, what’s the solution?
There are a few. You can ask for the Instagram. However, not everyone will share their Instagram, especially if they don’t know you. Another idea is to FaceTime/video chat before the date. If you’re wary of their photos, you can use a reverse image search on Google. It’s free and fairly easy to do. You can do this by saving their photo on your computer, go to google images and drag that photo into your browser. If it’s a stock photo, it will show exactly where the photo is from displaying the URL.
Long-distance may not be an issue for everyone, but lying about one’s location is not uncommon. Perhaps you’re dating in NYC. You can always ask where in the City are you from. Your hope is that they’re honest if they’re living outside of the City. Then it’s up to you to decide whether you want to go out with them.
Let’s say you’re a guy who is 5’7”. Do you lie? Unfortunately, many men do, feeling insecure about their height. A man may claim with shoes they’re 5’9”. Don’t get me wrong there’s nothing bad about being 5’7”, it’s only bad when a man lies about their height. My girlfriend recently went out with a guy who claimed to be 5’9”. When they met for drinks he was 5’4”. She ended up grabbing the drink with him because she didn’t want to hurt his feelings, but seriously men stop lying about your height!
I’ve seen this in two cases. If you date younger, some men may claim to be 21 when in reality they’re not. They can still get in the bars with their fake, but they don’t want you knowing that they still can’t legally drink. Or perhaps they look old for their age and you’re 32 and they’re really in their young 20s. There isn’t much to do to find out their true age without asking for the ID, but that’s a weird ask. Especially on date number one.
I’ve seen it go the other way as well. You’re in you’re 30s and they’re in their 50s, but he claims to be in his 40s. They don’t want you to feel like you’re dating your dad’s friend. I get it, but in that case, men shouldn’t be dating that much younger if they’re willing to lie about their age on their online dating profile.
Many men go bald or have a receding hairline, and there’s nothing wrong with that. The issue is when men display photos of themselves in their 20s with a full head of hair. Men, please be honest and again don’t waste your dates time.
7. Visiting from another State or Country
If you live in a major city like New York, you may come across men who are visiting. You may not realize that they’re from another State, and I’m not talking New Jersey. These men may not be forthright that they’re in fact not from the City or event the Country until they meet you in-person.
8. Interests & Hobbies
You have been texting for a few days and sharing your love of Broadway, reading fiction, and Peloton. He seems like the perfect guy since he has all the same interests. Again, you don’t have to be distrustful and ask him to send you his selfie from Peloton, but it’s not uncommon for a man to lie on their dating profile or lie when chatting to you, so they can win you over.
9. Weight / Body Type
Another lie that’s all too common on dating profiles, is men’s weight. Their photos may make them seem fit, but when you both meet up, you realize he has a dad bod or worse a potbelly. You can try resorting to asking for their Instagram beforehand, but it’s tough to figure out what they truly look like until you get on that first date.
It’s all too common that Facebook or Google would be listed on their online dating profile as their occupation. Are they lying? You could look them up on LinkedIn, but again that’s likely overstepping, plus they can see that you viewed their profile unless you have the upgraded LinkedIn profile. The best bet is to ask them about their job. You can do so without appearing a gold digger.
Speaking about jobs, some men lie about their income. With sites such as Elite Singles, which is absolutely scammy, there is a market for dating wealthy singles. Men may lie about their income to appear successful, but if a man is talking about his income on his dating profile do you really want to go out with him…red flags!
12. He Has a Girlfriend
Unfortunately, men cheat. He may even claim he’s in a complicated relationship when he’s not. You can check his Instagram for confirmation on whether or not he is single, but that isn’t always so telling.
13. He Is Married
One of my friends was recently asked out by a married man in her apartment complex. She asked him, Aren’t you married?! He confidently said yes, but claimed to be in an open relationship. She then said, can I confirm with your wife? She never heard from him again. This is sad but true.
14. Swinger & Into Threesomes
If you’re into the swinging scene, by all means, go for it. However, you may match with a guy on a dating app with the perfect bio, and 20 minutes into your texting conversation, he asks, Would you want to swing with me and my girlfriend? Again, nothing wrong with that, but many men aren’t upfront or don’t list that on their dating profile. There are apps for that sort of thing.
There you have it, 14 ways guys lie on their online dating profiles. Again, I don’t want you to be distrustful of men, but please be smart. You never know who is behind the profile. If you have stories of how guys lied on their online dating profile, shoot us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org